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Money Drain: Marrying a Sociopath cost her $227,000

Your Tango posted an article of a woman who married what she calls a “sociopath” that eventually cost her $227,000.

Montgomery never asked for money for himself. All requests were presented as investments in our future, needed to secure some part of a business deal. Every time he asked for money, it was because a crisis had to be resolved immediately. What I didn’t know was that he created the crises so I wouldn’t have time to think about his request. And I also didn’t know, until after I left my husband, that much of my money was spent entertaining other women…

…James Montgomery took $227,000 from me. I never recovered my money and had to declare bankruptcy, while Montgomery moved on to the next woman, or, more precisely, the next several women. But I’m OK now—I’ve recovered, remarried, and I exposed Montgomery for the fraud that he is. And I have a new mission in life—educating the world about sociopaths.

Lesson Learned:
Not only is love blind, in that we can love someone completely without concern for looks, weight, etc., but love also MAKES us blind. By this I mean it can force us into denial when it comes to serious problems like infidelity or stolen money.

The best advice I can give, and even it is subjective because everyone is different, is that you have to remain rational in all dealings within a relationship. There are things that we are always going to be passionate about and move mountains for when it comes to our emotions, but always take a step back before making any major decisions and ask yourself if you would recommend this to someone else in a relationship as well. That’s the best advice I’ve been able to try and follow in my own relationships.

Amount Flushed Down the Money Drain: $227,000

About Crystal Groves, Google+

Crystal Groves is a farmer, web developer, musician, blogger, and personal finance enthusiast from the back hills of Maryland and Pennsylvania. She started Money Drain as a project to encourage people interested in fixing their financial situation to share their stories and learn from the stories of others. We all make mistakes, but in order to change we have to make changes.

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